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Communion with God, Spiritual living, Uncategorized

May 25, 2010

What Happens When God Speaks

Having the orientation to the natural realm that we do, we often talk about God speaking as though His Voice operates like sound waves. His Voice is a spiritual voice, a spiritual essence, almost all the time. He isn’t speaking to natural “ears” but to our spiritual “ears”.

Therefore, the process has a parallel to the natural, but also some differences. Our natural ears do three things so that we can hear sounds. They funnel sound waves into our ears, they recognize the different values of air pressure, and then they turn those changes in air pressure into electrical signals that our brain can understand.

To facilitate hearing in the natural we do things like turn our face toward the place the sound is coming that we want to hear, try or expect to understand the sound, and often manage other sound around us that is interfering with what we are trying to hear. We might do that by turning down our radio or TV, walking in out of the traffic to hear on a phone, or taking an ipod to a quiet place to hear it play.

Make no mistake though. Natural hearing is a mechanical function not a spiritual function and there are important differences.

Spiritual hearing is different because God doesn’t use sound waves when He speaks. We can extrapolate this because when God spoke in the Bible some people heard Him audibly, but not everyone heard Him or heard the same thing.

We read about this in John 12:28-29: “‘Father, glorify Your name.’ Then a voice came from heaven, saying, ‘I have both glorified it and will glorify it again.’ Therefore the people who stood by and heard it said that it had thundered. Others said, ‘An angel has spoken to Him.”[1]

Experientially, we can observe today that same phenomenon. My friend Sherry who is very credible, has known God many years and been around prophetic ministry for decades heard the audible Voice of God one night praying for one of my children. She is unequivocal about what and how she heard Him speak (audibly), but the others present didn’t hear Him audibly.

Spiritual hearing comes to our spirit, not our body. Most often our spirit and body are in the same place of course so it is easy to get into the frame of reference that God is using our body to speak to, but that simply isn’t the case.

There is still the parallel though. When we hear through our ears we should listen and pay attention. When God speaks to our spirit, we should listen and pay attention.

When we have an ear infection, or perhaps our ears have been stopped up with water from swimming, our ears are impaired of hearing.

Similarly, when our spirit is full of “junk”, perhaps anxiety or anger or just a long TO DO list… maybe even a bundle of opinions, our spiritual hearing is impaired. That is because just as sound waves travel our ear canal, spiritual waves flow into our spirit. What we perceive as a spiritual word is often a mixture of what the spiritual essence was, and what it has mixed with in our spirit.

Think of it this way:

Assemble three small glass bowls with a spoon for each. Fill one with water, one with white icing, and one with chocolate icing. Now, add four drops of red food coloring  to each bowl and mix them well with the spoon. For you guys who have not spent a lot of time with icing and food coloring, I will tell you what happens.

The white icing becomes a lighter shade of the original color. In other words, pink. How light or dark pink it is will be determined by how much icing was in the bowl. Take the same amount of food coloring (spiritual essence) and mix it with twice as much icing and it will be even lighter.

The chocolate icing will be the least changed of the three. The darkness of the chocolate allows less of the red to show through, and if you double the amount of chocolate you may barely find a tinge of red in the icing.

The water on the other hand will alter the red color the least. If you used a small enough amount of water, the color may match the color of the food coloring. If you use a great deal more water you can eventually dilute the color, however even twice as much water might not make a discernable difference.

The spiritual essence of what God is speaking and communicating to us is just like that food coloring.

If we are mostly full of the Holy Spirit we will receive and perceive the essence of what God is speaking. The spiritual essence of what God is communicating to us will not be diluted by who or what we are.

When we are opaque, even with things we perceive to be good (works of man, religion), and devoting ourselves to God, we still only get a dilution of the essence of what God is speaking to us.

It is a funny thing about Christians that we carry our opinions and offenses thinking that we have sanctified them and so we can keep them. (Not true of course but a topic for another day.) So often because we are the “white icing” and not the chocolate, we think we have arrived.

The chocolate icing here of course is symbolic of darkness. Spiritual essence can be lost in darkness, never even registering in less we are really looking for it.

Metaphorically speaking water represents spiritual things, and the opaque icings represent things of the world, good or bad, light or dark.

Our lesson is that to hear God is a spiritual function, and it happens in our spirit. The more pure our spirit, the more easily we will discern the essence of what God is communicating. Many of the things that make us good natural listeners such as carrying about the person speaking, giving them our attention, not jumping in with our judgments and opinions about what they are saying, are also good habits to help us hear God more.

Nevertheless, hearing God is not the same as hearing people, and important things that will help us to hear God better are distinct because they don’t occur just in the moment, but in every moment.

Remember Luke 12:27, “Consider the lilies, how they grow; they do not toil, they do not spin. And yet I say to you that Solomon in all his glory was not arrayed like one of these.”[2]

Today, if you will empty yourself of the cares of the world, release your opinions, judgments, offenses, etc you will find the spiritual essence, the essence of what God is saying to you, to be clearer and stronger within you.


[1] New King James Version®

[2] New King James Version®

Relationships, Spiritual living

May 20, 2010

How to Become a Friend of God

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The Bible sets the goal for us to be a friend of God. You may have heard people talk about what a great relationship they have with God. No longer being young I have learned to not just listen to what people say but to look for the evidence, to look for the fruit in their lives. Does the person speaking reflect who God is? Does the person have good friends? Have they had some of the same friends for years? What does this person know about being a friend of God, or anyone else?

You see, it has occurred to me that if we cannot be a friend to someone that we can see, touch, feel and hear audibly, we might not have the tools or capacity to have a friendship and deep communion with someone whom we cannot always see, touch, feel and hear audibly.

Would you agree that the same capacity for the attributes of friendship with each other, such as loyalty, honoring others, generosity, acting with accountability, and trustworthiness, are also required to become a friend of God? Would God have a friend who does not listen to what He says, is not loyal to Him, or not trustworthy? I think not. He will love us, He will care about us, but I don’t believe that He will call us His friends under those circumstances.

Imagine a line or continuum called Relationship. At one end of the line would be the beginning point we will call awareness (of another) and at the far end of that line would be intimacy. In between we move from awareness to acquaintance, to social friends, to advisors, to intimate friends.

Process of Relationship

Awareness  →  Acquaintance   →  Social  →   Advisor →  Intimate →

Levels of Relationship:

Awareness:        We know the person exists. They might be a celebrity, or a neighbor or someone who rides the same train as we do.

Acquaintance:   We are not only aware of this person but we have met them, know their name, and perhaps a little about them. They may work where we work, live in our neighborhood or have children at school with our children. They can also be people we met at church or at the grocery store. Some people we are aware of are also our acquaintances.

Social:                   This is the category of friends that we often think of first when asked about our friends. These are the people that we talk to regularly, go out with or have into our homes. They know more about us than our acquaintances and we may talk about some things that are important to us, or we may not. We care about these people and they care about us in varying degrees. Some of our acquaintances are also social friends.

Advisors:             Advisor is not a perfect word here, but I have used it for emphasis to describe a special subset of our social friends. Advisors are the people that we have some sense or level of accountability to. They are the truer friends than others; they will tell us the truth, even when it hurts or is unpopular. They stand for many of the things we stand for and believe in many of the things that we believe in. This doesn’t mean that we are identical, but we have a relationship based on things that we share a common and have a high value for. They love us and weep when we weep, and rejoice when we rejoice. Some of our social friends are also our advisors.

Intimate:             Intimate friends are the fewest of all of course. They know us deeply. They know things that are private and most personal and they are our most valuable friends (relationships). These are people who will sacrifice for us, and maybe even give their lives for us. Some of our advisors, are also intimate friends.

One characteristic of this process or levels of relationship that might jump out to you is that as we move to higher levels of friendship, the subset of friends that fall into the next category is smaller.

My friend gave a going away party for someone once, and they joked about inviting the person’s hundred “best friends”. Sadly, if you have one hundred “best friends” you may really have none, because your best friends are going to fall far to the right of center on this continuum. The honoree was long on acquaintances and, but lacked the understanding and the skills to cultivate deeper relationships. Our best friends are our intimate friends which should include( but not be limited to) our spouses.

Another important characteristic of these levels is that the attributes of friendship given above, increase as you move from left to right. You may have no trust for a person that you are simply aware of while they are waiting for the same train as you, but you will have a great deal of trust for your advisors, and more for your intimate friends.

One of the reasons that we need our natural friends is that healthy and enduring friendships nurture in us the very attributes that we need to be a friend of God.

John 15:10-15 says, If you keep my commands, you’ll remain intimately at home in my love. That’s what I’ve done–kept my Father’s commands and made myself at home in his love.

“I’ve told you these things for a purpose: that my joy might be your joy, and your joy wholly mature.

This is my command: Love one another the way I loved you.

This is the very best way to love. Put your life on the line for your friends.

You are my friends when you do the things I command you.

I’m no longer calling you servants because servants don’t understand what their master is thinking and planning. No, I’ve named you friends because I’ve let you in on everything I’ve heard from the Father. [i]

Implicit in this scripture is the message that trustworthiness, the capacity to receive correction, the ability to be loyal in the face of personal detriment, a willingness to listen, to give our time in privacy to another and to share our innermost thoughts and feelings, are part of walking with God and being His friend. Walking with God is walking in communion with Him, endeavoring to see what He sees, and respond in the way that He is telling us to respond.

If you are walking in an intimate relationship with God today, perhaps you might express your gratitude sometime to those friends and mates who have helped you cultivate that capacity in your own life.

If you are not walking in the depth of relationship with God today that you truly desire, then go after Him. While you are pursuing Him, perhaps it would be good to also practice on the friends you have around you?


[i] “Scripture taken from The Message. Copyright � 1993, 1994, 1995, 1996, 2000, 2001, 2002. Used by permission of NavPress Publishing Group.”

Change Your Mind, Spiritual living

May 6, 2010

Season for Promotion

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Are you ready for graduation?  What have you recently qualified for?

A friend wrote in his blog this week that while recently attending the Michigan graduation of his sons, the Pro-Life protesters outside the venue at times drowned out the speaker.1

Also this week J. Lee Grady wrote about attending his daughter’s graduation in Georgia a few years ago. The keynote speaker, a State Legislator with well known conservative Christian values launched into a “blistering tirade” about immigration policy blaming immigrants for dangers, drugs and disease”. 2  The tenor of the ceremony changed and people became uncomfortable and embarrassed. All the parents, graduates and well wishers, along with foreign nationals (parents) were forced to sit through this diatribe which was inappropriate rather than uplifting and inspirational as the event called for.

2 Corinthians 19-23 says, “Even though I am free of the demands and expectations of everyone, I have voluntarily become a servant to any and all in order to reach a wide range of people: religious, nonreligious, meticulous moralists, loose-living immoralists, the defeated, the demoralized-whoever. I didn’t take on their way of life. I kept my bearings in Christ-but I entered their world and tried to experience things from their point of view. I’ve become just about every sort of servant there is in my attempts to lead those I meet into a God-saved life. I did all this because of the Message. I didn’t just want to talk about it; I wanted to be in on it!”  3

People change from the inside out. If we want to see people transformed into, as Paul says, “a God-saved life”, we need to quit taking on the ways of the world. Its like Bible thumping,  now means trying to thump people over the head with a Bible, as if they can be transformed by osmosis in that process. Does anyone want to change their life and become like the person beating them over the head (even if that is only figurative)? I don’t think so.

In fact, we may need to consider Paul’s admonition to not just talk about the “Message” but to be the “Message”.

The world already has plenty of hostility, quarreling, outbursts of anger, dissension, division. 4  We don’t like to be the recipient of these things,  so why do we think they will have a positive impact on others? Galatians goes on to say, “But the Holy Spirit produces this kind of fruit in our lives: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. 5

These are things that people must experience and see in our lives, if we are to have any real hope of “leading” them into a God-saved life. We cannot use the ways of the world to achieve spiritual transformation. Only the Spirit changes things for good for eternity.

My suggestion: Today deliberately speak and impart the fruits of the spirit to at least five people, plus everyone you live with. Even better, every time you speak, first deliberately chose one of the fruits of the spirit to demonstrate in your speaking.  No talking about it, just doing it, being it.

In other words, stop talking about Christianity, and do it.

When I was young my Mother always reminded us as we went out the door that we needed to speak and behave in a certain way. The implication was that what we did and said reflected on our whole family.

Today, are you a good reflection of the God’s family?

Yes, I know that I’m preaching to the choir here. Someone please tell me why that seems necessary?


1. www.michaelhindes.com

2. J. Lee Grady, Fire in My Bones, May 5, 2010

3. The Message

4. Holy Bible, New Living Translation, Gal 5:20

5. Holy Bible, New Living Translation, Gal 5:22-23

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